5 TIPS TO BE HAPPIER AND LOVE YOURSELF MORE
The greatest thing you can do for yourself, your family, and your life is to make peace with the terms of your existence, no matter how good or how bad your circumstances.
Here are 5 tips from the author Eckhart Tolle (from his book, Oneness with All Life) on how to be happier and love yourself more
1) Stop that voice in your head the very moment it starts to complain-
“Recognize it for what it is: the voice of the ego, no more than a thought. Whenever you notice that voice, you will also realize that you are not the voice, but the one who is aware of it. In fact, you are the awareness that is aware of the voice. In the background, there is the awareness. In the foreground, there is the voice, the thinker. In this way you are becoming free of the ego, free of the unobserved mind.”
2) Stop creating your suffering-
“Why do anxiety, stress, or negativity arise? Because you turned away from the present moment. And why did you do that? You thought something else was more important. One small error, one misperception, creates a world of suffering.”
3) Don’t depend on what happens around you to allow yourself to be fully happy-
“People believe themselves to be dependent on what happens for their happiness. They don't realize that what happens is the most unstable thing in the universe. It changes constantly. They look upon the present moment as either marred by something that has happened and shouldn't have or as deficient because of something that has not happened but should have. And so they miss the deeper perfection that is inherent in life itself, a perfection that lies beyond what is happening or not happening. Accept the present moment and find the perfection that is untouched by time.”
4) Your thoughts are what’s really making you unhappy-
“Be aware of the thoughts you are thinking. Separate them from the situation, which is always neutral, which always is as it is. There is the situation or the fact, and here are my thoughts about it. Instead of making up stories, stay with the facts. For example, I am ruined is a story. It limits you and prevents you from taking effective action. I have 50 cents left in my bank account is a fact. Facing facts is always empowering.”
5) Don’t go out there looking for happiness-
“If you seek it, you won't find it, because seeking is the antithesis of happiness. Happiness is ever elusive, but freedom from unhappiness is attainable now, by facing what is rather than making up stories about it.”
Try as we might to be happy, we all struggle with negative thoughts sometimes.
“Making these thoughts go away is extremely difficult. They are persistent and never seem to resolve themselves. The solutions we try to find don't work either,” self-improvement and mindfulness guru Deepak Chopra said.
“It's necessary to try a new way, one that allows our mind be our friend and not our enemy. To do that, we have to move from the level of the problem to the level of the solution,” he adds.
Want to learn more about your struggles?
1. Try out this Depression self-assessment test
2. Or try this quiz to see if you are struggling with Anxiety